The Anand Karaj is followed by a wedding lunch for all guests.
Doli – Bride Leaving Home
Doli refers to the bride leaving her parental home after her wedding. The bride is usually accompanied by a younger brother. The bride goes inside the house immediately, while the groom participates in a series of fun rituals in order to be allowed entry into the home. The sisters and female cousins of the bride will only allow entry if the groom pays them a negotiated monetary sum. There is usually lots of bartering and joking involved and after a few minutes, the groom will pay the girls a negotiated amount and be allowed to enter the home. The girls may choose to put a ribbon at the door for the groom to cut after he is allowed entry.
The guests are served chai and sweets.
The bride and groom are seated together, surrounded by their family and friends.
The bride’s parents give money and their blessings (sagan) to the bride and groom.
Other guests who wish to bestow money upon the couple will do so at this time.
As the women are singing Vidaai songs, the bride is ushered to the front door by her parents and family.
Before stepping outside of the house she throws three, five or seven handfuls of rice (depending on the family’s preference) behind her. This symbolizes repaying her parents for all they have done for her.
The family walks her to the waiting car and she will depart for her in-laws home, accompanied by her younger brother.
As the car leaves, the brothers and male cousins give the car a push to help their sister start her new life.
The father of the groom throws coins as the couple departs showing his happiness at the conclusion of this ceremony. Traditionally, this was done as a way to give money to the poor children in the village.
Pani Bharna – Welcoming the Bride at the Groom’s Home
Upon arrival at the groom’s home, his mother pours mustard oil on both sides of the door before allowing the couple to enter. The pouring of oil is an act of welcoming in Punjabi culture.
The groom’s mother then begins the Pani Bharna in which she attempts to drink water from a steel jug and her son prevents her from doing so. After the third, fifth or seventh attempt he allows her to drink it.
The couple enters the home and the bride is seated among the female relatives of the groom’s side.
The women give sagan to the bride to welcome her into her new family and the wedding day usually ends here.